Condescending People

I hate it when adults talk to us teenagers like we have everything oh so easy. Like school’s the only thing in our lives that we have problems with. Like we don’t know what happens if you don’t pay the bills, or if you try to get by life without trying. Some of us know how that feels firsthand. Some of us know that because of bills and car payments and rent, we’re going to have too get through the holidays with one paycheck. Some of us know what it’s like to be evicted, to go days without any food. We don’t even own credit cards or anything. And my teacher’s sitting up here, preaching to us about how hard it was, going a week without a paycheck, and still having to make car and house payments. As if. Try going months without a paycheck, and having to make car, house, and bill payments. Try being so poor that you can’t even afford a $50 halloween costume. Try hearing your aunt say she wished she’d never taken custody of you and your sisters, because we sucked the life and money out of her. Then preach to me about real life.

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6 responses to “Condescending People

  1. Hi there! I stumbled on your blog about a week ago and find it fascinating (I think I might have been to blame for the 99 hits thing, lol, since I went back and read the whole thing). I’m sorry things are so tough for you right now. That’s a horrible thing for a parental type to say to a kid, or to anyone really.

    I hope things get better for you. Keep writing, you’re very good. Not many 16 year old’s have such a wicked good handle on the written word. 🙂

  2. That’s so sad! I can’t believe she said that! I hate how adults expect you to only have the simple problem of doing your homework on time, or keeping your room clean. Um try spending every day worried about whether you’re safe to walk home. Try spending everyday worried about whether you’re safe to walk down the hall. Try having an ulcer as a high school student because you ARE worried about those things. My list goes on and on but I think your post got the message across.

  3. Not sure how old you are but I am 25 and I felt the same way for a long time. Thought I would give you a different perspective. The things my parents used to tell me—-all came true. All of them. I don’t know if they really possessed the ability to see into the future or if those dreadful words cursed me and became my reality. I would have never understood them back then but now with some experience under my belt, I see exactly where they are coming from. So now, at 25, when people talk to me about these things (I don’t think it ever goes away, there’s always someone older, wiser, more seasoned than you) I try to listen objectively and not take it so much as being condescending but rather as advice from someone who has been around the block a few times. If I had listened to my parents on a lot of the shit they used to tell me, I would have avoided plenty of downfalls in my life. I can’t tell you how much the world changes starting from age 15 to 23. I think 24 is like the wake up call for most people I know.

    As for your Aunt, that’s just bullshit.

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